Preparing for birth with hypnobirthing

Before she’d had her first child, she’d read one book and thought she was ready for labor (spoiler alert: she wasn’t). So, when Klara Svensson was pregnant with her second child, she decided that a hypnobirthing course might be a better way of preparing for birth.

BABYBJÖRN Magazine – A pregnant Klara Svensson gazes out over the sea. She’s preparing for birth with hypnobirthing.
Klara Svensson found that a hypnobirthing course was a good way of preparing for birth the second time around.
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What is hypnobirthing? All you need to know

Nothing brings home to you the importance of preparing for birth like suddenly finding yourself on a window ledge on the ninth floor of the maternity unit, screaming in panic that you’re “GOING TO F**KING JUMP” if they don’t “CUT IT OUT OF YOU RIGHT NOW!” You realize (far too late) that you’re completely clueless about giving birth. What the hell are you supposed to be doing?

Giving birth again? Yikes, I’ve got to start preparing NOW.

So, a few years later, when I peed on the stick again and went back into the bedroom to share the good news with my over-the-moon boyfriend, my feelings were mixed. Giving birth again? Yikes, I’ve got to start preparing NOW. Last time, with my then-boyfriend, I felt super ready after reading just one book. I had a strategy! We were way too cool to bother with antenatal classes and, surprise, surprise, I wrote an obnoxious birth plan, which we tore up into confetti and scattered somewhere near that window ledge I told you about.

“You’ve written that you don’t want an epidural and you want everything to be as natural as possible,” the midwife hesitantly pointed out that time. “I DO WANT IT!” I yelled. And stepped down from that window ledge. Well, “step” might be stretching it a bit: anyone who’s been pregnant knows you don’t exactly “step”. You sort of lumber forwards. Like a sack of potatoes rolling downhill in a headwind.

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I decided to take a hypnobirthing course

Anyway, somewhere in the middle of my second pregnancy, with my next boyfriend, who was about to become a first-time dad, I read an article in a pregnancy magazine. It was penned by a reporter who’d tried out different ways of preparing for birth, including hypnobirthing. And she warmly recommended it. This time around, I decided not to be too cool for school, and I signed us up for a hypnobirthing course.

BABYBJÖRN Magazine – Preparing for birth with hypnobirthing: Klara nurses her newborn son.
“Hypnobirthing was highly focused on the interaction between mom and baby and the way their bodies work in harmony during childbirth.”
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Before we knew it, we were seated on chairs, face-to-face, in a conference room. My boyfriend and I were breathing in harmony. We were lightly massaging each other and practicing affirmations. We were learning all about the power the mind exerts over the body, and the way fear can prevent a fully functional female body from doing what it’s perfectly capable of doing, even when lying in a coma: giving birth.

Hypnobirthing was highly focused on the interaction between mom and baby, and the way their bodies work in harmony during childbirth. “This is natural. Your body instinctively knows what it’s supposed to do. Trust your body. Natural, natural, natural. Serene and safe.” The course taught us a wonderfully effective relaxation script, which my boyfriend and I practiced almost every evening.

The most important aspect of hypnobirthing is practicing how to cope with unexpected developments.

Most importantly, the course taught us how to manage all the uncertain parameters of childbirth. There’s no way to tell in advance how it will feel – every birth is different. You don’t know how events will unfold. You don’t know how long you’ll be in labor. The one thing you do know for sure is that you’ll stay strong. Together with your baby. And most of what you’re doing is entirely natural and nothing is wrong. You learn how to nip any niggles of panic in the bud.

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Five hypnobirthing tips for a more comfortable birth

1. If a hypnobirthing course is unaffordable or unavailable, you can read books, watch YouTube clips and listen to relaxation music on Spotify.

2. Practice relaxation and positive reinforcement as often as you can. Find music, scents and “happy places” in your mind that give you a sense of calmness and reassurance.

3. Involve your partner/birthing companion as much as possible. The two of you are a team!

4. The most important aspect of hypnobirthing is practicing how to cope with unexpected developments. Things never go according to plan. And this isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

5. Let go and allow your body to show you the way. It may sound incredibly hippy-dippy, but your body knows what it’s supposed to do. Your brain can stall or slow down your labor: learn how to disconnect it!

BABYBJÖRN Magazine – Preparing for birth with hypnobirthing: Klara kisses her newborn baby.
“The one thing you do know for sure is that you’ll stay strong. Together with your baby.”
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In retrospect, I have to say that hypnobirthing paid off for me.

It’s quite painful to give birth. Quite horrendously painful, to be honest. But don’t panic. In retrospect, I have to say that hypnobirthing paid off for me. It soothed my partner and me into the right state of mind. Once we reached the delivery ward, everything went quite quickly and we didn’t have time for much of our relaxation script. I asked for an epidural straight away, even though it was too soon, and it worked brilliantly. I’m so glad that I had the guts to stand my ground. Towards the end of the second phase of labor, I felt a sense of rising panic, but I focused on my baby, talked to him and kept feeling his head.

I felt the reassuring presence of my boyfriend at my side. And despite all the preparing for birth I’d done this time, I still moaned at least ten times, “Hooowww could you be crazy enough to do this AGAIN?” – but, you see, that’s entirely natural too.

BABYBJÖRN Magazine – Portrait of Klara Svensson

Klara Svensson

Age: 32

Family: My partner Kjell, 47, son Sam, 10 weeks, and daughter Betty, 5 years.

Lives: In a tiny (but delightfully cozy!) one- bedroom apartment we’re renting in Stockholm, while waiting for a new build.

My top tip for new moms: Get a baby bouncer with a calming rocking movement. It’s truly a life-saver if you want time to yourself to grab a meal/take a shower/check Instagram/sit staring into space.